From the beginning of the conversation, you already know what’s going on. You know how his voice rings from your ears down to your heart all the way to your thighs. You know how looking at him tickles the butterflies in your tummy.
So, whether you’re trying to be faithful to one guy or you’re trying to stay off sex or you just know this guy is no good for you, Dua lipa gave us the ultimate list! And the first step is being honest with yourself. You need to stop telling yourself you can control the way you feel because you can’t and you most definitely cannot control the way he feels, or worse, what he will do. So, here are things you should do:
1. Don’t pick up the phone
Depending on who this guy is, you might need to even block him. Yes, it can be that deep and you need to draw thick lines and make some tough decisions. Tough because if you have had sex with him before, it’s probably something you enjoy doing, and it can be that you just enjoy his company and the sex is an added advantage. So, yes, it’s going to be tough. But the best solution most times is to cut off every form of communication because anything can be a trigger.
2. Don’t let him in
First, you need to know yourself and be able to identify these feelings right from the beginning so that you can nip it in the bud. Putting a stop to it before it even starts is the easiest way out of such a situation and you save everyone the trouble
3. Don’t be his friend
“You’re only going to wake up in his bed in the morning, and if you’re under him you aint getting over him.”
Sometimes, you need to be more assertive about what you want. A No is a No, but don’t say no and drop by his house to check on him the next day to make sure he had something to eat. Do not invite him over to try your new recipe when it’s not necessary. You’re only setting yourself up. It’s like working out or changing your diet. If you don’t keep your word to yourself, you won’t get to where you want to go and you might just get burnt because of it. So, be wise.