Everyone has gone through one mishap or the other when it comes to relationships. What you experienced in your teenage relationship is different from what you experience in your 20s and in your 30s. It's a different game when you are married.
Relationships come with a lot of sacrifices, endurance, misunderstandings, rejections, and so on.
It has its own merits and demerits. We come from different backgrounds and with different experiences.
They say experience is the best teacher, and this is why so many people bring their past baggage with them when they want to begin a new relationship. This can be because of fear of experiencing repeated situations.
These things, however, can destroy the relationship even before it starts. Here are possible ways you are sabotaging your relationship:
1. You avoid facing problems
This is common when a person is guilty or when they hate too much work. They do not like talking about their problems even when their partner calls their attention to it. Some of these problems are things happening in the relationship that your partner thinks you need to know.
Phrases like “I don't think this is an issue" or “ I don't want to talk about it” are commonly used when you do not want to face a problem in your relationship.
2. You engage in serial dating
This is when you are always quick to ditch a partner. You change partners every day. You find fault in everyone and your friends know you as a serial date. This way, you may be destroying the relationship you have with people.
3. You sleep with other people
If you are in a committed, monogamous relationship, there is no point sleeping with someone else besides your partner. It's called cheating.
4. You practise gaslighting
This is a sign that you do not even believe your partner's true feelings for you. You blame them for what you do. You cheat and make them look guilty by saying they are the reason why you cheat. You make them look crazy. When they say, “You cheated on me", you respond with the words, “Yeah, because you wouldn't give me what I want.” This is gaslighting.
5. You think negative
You keep thinking of when you break up. Your mind is set on what to do when you break up even while still in the relationship. This can make your partner think differently about you.
6. You are extremely jealous
It's normal to be jealous in a romantic relationship but not when you do this every time. You check their phones every time, you are paranoid and you always think they are cheating on you.
7. You try to control them
There is nothing worse than being in a controlling relationship. Your partner wants to know where you go to every minute.
8. You hold grudges
You keep things to yourself. You do not speak up and you do not let go. You just keep things bottled up instead of trying to solve the issue. You do not forgive easily.