Emotional manipulation can take a serious toll on your mental health. Here are ways to deal with it.
Being in a relationship, either personal or business, with emotional manipulators can be quite daunting. You lose yourself in the process because they constantly drive you crazy with their erratic behaviours.
Make no mistake about it—their behaviour truly goes against reason. So, why do you dance to their beat by responding to them emotionally and getting sucked into their twisted play?
Here are ways to deal with emotional manipulators.
1. Quit trying to beat them at their own game
It is difficult to beat an emotional manipulator at their game and you may run the risk of losing yourself in the process. It is advisable that you distance yourself from them emotionally. Give them space if you cannot totally avoid them, especially if you work with them.
2. Don't respond to the emotional chaos
You don’t need to respond to the emotional chaos, only the facts. It might seem difficult, especially with a third party involved. They might want to throw in the victim card by displaying emotional tantrums, but maintain your cool and dish out receipts and facts only. Do not let them drag you through emotional torture, because if they succeed in doing that, they win. They have mastered the art of manipulation, and if you try to join them, you make the situation messy.
3. Maintain emotional distance
Maintaining emotional distance requires great awareness. If you work with an emotional manipulator, you need to study them from afar so you can be prepared to react to their tactics. You can’t stop someone from pushing your buttons if you don’t recognize when it’s happening. Therefore, you have to be vigilant and mentally alert.
4. Set boundaries
It is important to set boundaries for your peace of mind. Most people feel as though, because they work or live with someone, they have no way to control the problems that may arise. Once you’ve successfully identified a manipulator, you’ll begin to find their behaviour more predictable and easier to understand. This will, in turn, equip you to think logically about when and where you have to put up with them or when and where you don’t.
You need to establish boundaries, but you’ll have to do so consciously and proactively. If you let things happen naturally, you’re bound to find yourself constantly dragged in difficult conversations you’re not prepared for. This could drain you and leave you feeling inadequate. By setting boundaries, you are at an advantage and in a position to manage them. The only trick is to keep boundaries in place when the person tries to cross them, which they will.