With so much happening around us, it has become difficult to protect one's peace of mind. Find five practical and fun ways to do so here.
The year has been tough on our mental and emotional health - from the outbreak of the COVID-19 pandemic to police brutality and rape. The media and social media are not helping us protect and preserve our mental energy. Rather, they are constantly draining us and keeping us on the edge with bad news. So much so, a lot of people worry and live in constant fear of the unknown.
Take a moment to reflect on how your life would be if you had no bills to pay and no responsibilities to attend to. How would you react to your boss or colleagues at work if you weren’t faced with deadlines and are genuinely happy to just work? What will you do differently in your business and relationships if you weren’t under any sort of pressure?
With so much happening around us, it has become difficult to “relaz and be taken kiaruf” (in the voice of 2019 BBN winner Mercy Eke). Do you want to look back at your life and remember only the never-ending “to-do” lists and urgent things or do you want to look back and celebrate yourself for staying calm, radiating light, and protecting your peace of mind amidst the chaos?
Protecting your peace of mind is extremely important. It doesn’t mean being nonchalant and evasive towards things that concern you in life. It simply means protecting your strength and energy to stay positive and happy. It means staying away from “gbas gbos” as much as possible, resisting the urge to “shalaye” and deciding to lend your energy to certain things you consider a matter of importance and building a space to preserve your energy when the chaos in your life drains it away.
Here are five practical and fun ways to protect your peace of mind in 2020
1. Create a bubble (Safe Haven)
I can’t emphasize this enough! It is important to create a space - like a cocoon where you feel safe. It could be your house, your room, your study, or a spot you always visit to unwind. For me, it is my home and I do not receive visitors because I run away from bad energy faster than my shadow. After a hectic day or a draining or depressing conversation, feel free to undress, stay naked and reminisce, preferably listening to a song accompanied by a glass of wine, soft drink, or spirit. Your haven is a must to revitalize and re-energize!
2. Slow Down
Our lives are in constant motion and our phones are the biggest stress triggers, messing with our emotions and making us depressed. You must log out of your social media accounts sometimes. Drop your phone and meditate, speak affirmative words to yourself constantly. I find @thirdeyethoughts on Instagram, and Godfessions by Goke Coker therapeutic. Ensure your energy level is high enough before you pick those calls which drain you and leave you feeling sad and emotionally weak.
3. Relive Happy Moments
Create a playlist of songs that make you feel happy, all warm and fuzzy inside. If movies work for you, then watch that movie, read that book which makes you happy or recite that poem. Try to relive those happy moments you once had. Songs by Celine Dion and Abba make me happy because they help me reminisce about my happy childhood. So, I have a playlist that I listen to when I’m stressed. It doesn’t mean I’m in love or heartbroken. It simply makes me happy. Consciously create happy memories and relive them in chaotic times. It makes you feel light and you spread light by so doing.
4. Work Out or Take a Walk
Exercising reduces stress, makes you feel lighter. Try to exercise when you don’t feel so good and you’ll be grateful to yourself afterward. You could try out 'Bite with Kemen' by joining celebrity trainer @kemenfitness on Instagram at 7 am and 6 pm daily. It is free! All you need is a positive mind and be ready to burn some calories. You could also take a walk or try jogging. It clears the mind as well.
5. Visit Nature/The Beach
Nature is beautiful, calm, and therapeutic. It shuts out the noise from the bustling city and a chaotic environment. It gives you time to relax, think, and hear your thoughts.