We all tell a lie from time to time, we give it names like “white lie”, “little lie”, “harmless lie” – you know those little expediencies we indulge in from time to time. We all must have met or know someone who seems to tell a lie even when it is totally unnecessary – I’m not saying there is a time it is, LOL – , these type of people are compulsive liars. A compulsive liar is someone who lies with ease and finds comfort in it, usually for a purpose. lying has become like a second nature for them.
Getting a compulsive liar to admit he or she lied can be nearly impossible because once they get into the habit, it may be difficult to tell the truth. Lying can be an addiction like smoking or drinking alcohol. It provides comfort and becomes a fallback mechanism to use when you’re faced with uncomfortable feelings. As with most addictions, quitting lying is essential to your well being. And, like any other addiction, the first step is admitting that you have a problem. Below are a few tips that can help you get out of the habit of lying.
Identify your triggers
To successfully stop lying, it helps to identify the situations, emotions, people, or places that tend to cause you to avoid telling the truth. Once you know what triggers your lies, you can either avoid the trigger or find a way to confront it with honesty.
It’s better not to speak when you know, you’d end up telling a lie. If you simply can’t be honest in the moment, it’s better to stay quiet or change the subject than lying. It could be awkward but it’s a step to ridding the habit.
Make a commitment to stop
Lying is like any other addiction so you should treat it as such in finding a solution. It’s going to be difficult and would require a lot of self will. You would need to make a conscious commitment to quit.
Learn to face the consequences
Sure you may have gotten away with a lot of things by lying, it’s easier and less stressful than telling the truth, so you must deal with the fact that at a certain point, telling the truth will put you in those situations you lied to avoid, therefor you must learn the accept and face consequences instead of hiding behind a lie.
Lying is a real strain, you have to remember so much and, no matter how elaborate your twisting and turning, you could get burnt. Apart from all the ethical considerations, lying doesn’t work – not in the long run. And the consequences of lying sometimes seem to outweigh the benefits the lie will bring. Once you are unmasked as a habitual liar, you’re out in the open. People will take you far less seriously as a person and trust may be impossible to ever win back in most cases.
What are your thoughts?