#AskHappenings: We trust each other, why do we still need ‘safe sex’?

#AskHappenings: We trust each other, why do we still need ‘safe sex’?

Mfonobong Akpan

Dear Happenings,

Is it necessary to still practise safe sex precautions even when you are sexual with one person and know the person well enough?



Dear Anonymous,

The truth is that trust can only protect you so much from sexually transmitted infections and unwanted pregnancy. Even exchanged vows between married couples aren’t a guarantee.

Safe sex is the best way of protecting you and your sexual partner from STIs, unwanted pregnancy and HIV. Just thinking you and your partner are exclusive shouldn’t make you feel that comfortable because that only provides limited protection.

Have you thought of the way of life of your partner or the number of partners before you both became an item? Some people have STIs and don’t even know it because they have no symptoms, so practising safer  sex guarantees you greater protection. It’s not about trust, but being responsible.

On the other hand, if you both are sure you’re in a monogamous relationship then one of the first steps you can take is to have an open, honest communication about your sexual histories and values keeping in mind that the more partners someone has had, the more likely it is that he/she has been exposed to an STI.  The next important step is to get tested together. It’s important to not just take things at face value. By getting tested together you both start off with a clean slate.

Keep in mind though that safer is better. It makes you feel more at peace and will pay off both for you and for those you love. If you do have sex, practice safer sex methods.

Be Safe.


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