5 Reasons you’re only a hookup and not his girlfriend

5 Reasons you’re only a hookup and not his girlfriend

Mfonobong Akpan

Ladies, have you been back and forth with this one guy you wish would just “summon the courage” to ask you to be his girl, but unfortunately he only sees you as a friend with benefits?  Well, the bitter truth is your actions might just have placed you in this position. Here are a few reasons why  you haven’t made the girlfriend spot.

You enabled the hookup

He was passive in his approach, and you enabled his behaviour. Maybe you weren’t looking for more than a hookup at the time, anyway. Therefore, since your relationship didn’t start out on a course to commitment, there was never an expectation to commit. There’s never been the expectation for him to take you out or treat you as anything but a hookup, and so, there you stand.

You never told him what you wanted

Contrary to popular belief, certain things do not just fall in place, we need to work at achieving them. You’ve probably been acting the cool girl because you didn’t want to pressure him, but then, you started yearning for more. Even then, you don’t say anything because you assume he can read your mind. Unless you clearly express how you feel and what you want, you’ll never get it and you’ll be stuck in a cycle of unfulfilled expectations.

He’s emotionally unavailable

He never sleeps over because he always has an early day at work the next day, or whatever other excuses he gives you. You never go on regular dates because he only communicates when he wants to hook up. He’s mostly far away emotionally, not wanting to discuss very personal issues. These are some of the signs of an emotionally unavailable man and you missed them.

You gave up the juice for free

We’ve all heard the saying, “Why buy the cow, when you get the milk for free?” This normally refers to sex, but there’s more to it. He’s getting all the benefits of being your boyfriend without having to commit. You’re cooking and cleaning for him. You’re supporting his dreams. You’re giving him your time, heart and money. Why would he commit when he’s already getting all of the perks?

He’s just not that into you

All relationships aren’t meant to end in serious commitments, so if it isn’t working for you take a walk. He only keeps coming back to enjoy those benefits you generously pour at his feet.

Source: www.yourtango.com

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