#AskHappenings: Help! My boyfriend talks a lot

#AskHappenings: Help! My boyfriend talks a lot

Mfonobong Akpan

Dear Happenings,

My boyfriend talks a lot and it’s beginning to drive me crazy. Whenever we’re together, he just goes on and on about whatever is in his head. Just ask him his opinion on a particular subject and he wouldn’t even stop, not even for me to say something. He’s a good guy though, but I’d like to share my thoughts too. What do I do?


The best solution is to be honest with him about this character flaw but also keep in mind that you may have to manage him since he may not be able to change.

There are certain people who just feel the need to dominate conversations and don’t even realise that they do. Then again he may feel you are too quiet and just wants to keep the relationship alive and fun. You should let him know how much you appreciate the fact that he is kind and nice, then let him know kindly how you feel his communication style highly disruptive and exhausting. He may take offence but there’s hardly anything you can do about that. Ask him whether he could be more accommodating by allowing you contribute to conversations and see how he reacts. It’s quite possible that he doesn’t even realise what he’s doing and will appreciate the fact that you’ve pointed it out, plus you my have tohelp him out by prompting him to stop whenever he begins to speed out of line. But if he continues to dominate the conversation going forward or doesn’t acknowledge that he needs to work on his social skills then you might want to look for a quiet person.

Good luck.

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