The dating process could be very tricky at times, especially when you have to figure out what you should and shouldn’t do. Here are 8 dating errors we often engage in that aren’t so beneficial in the search for love.
Expecting a date to turn into a relationship
Instead of looking at your date as a potential life partner right off, try to look at them as someone you might want to see again. Did you enjoy hanging out with this person? Was there a connection? If the answer is yes, hope to have another date, not a wedding.
We wait “until,” before dating
We mistakenly think we need to accomplish everything to the T, finish school, become more confident, get a job, or get over a past relationship before we enter the dating world. Not saying you shouldn’t follow through on your dreams, but there will probably always be something in the way. If you keep “waiting until,” you may be waiting forever.
We only use one avenue — Online Or In-person
Explore both options — you’ll only be increasing your odds of finding a lasting connection. Let your heart be your guide, but let your mind have a say as well.
We look for someone perfect on paper
We often seek out that perfect man/woman we have in our heads, and then get disappointed when we realise they’re nothing like what we thought. Instead of focusing on checking off your list, focus on how they make you feel, regardless.
Interpret rejection as a sign we’re undateable
Dating is a lot like applying for jobs. Sometimes, the job’s not right for you and sometimes you’re not right for it. If you were to assume that you’re not hirable because you didn’t get the first job we applied for, we’d never apply for a job again. Unfortunately some people do this when it comes to dating. Remind yourself that if you get rejected, it doesn’t mean you’re a reject. There are tons of other people out there just waiting to get to know you – and love you.
We think a date has to be a fancy dinner
A first date and dating in general doesn’t have to look a certain way, just because we think it so. You could do other fun things, go for a walk, see a movie, drive around…
We assume coming across as perfect is to our benefit
You try so hard to look perfect before your date, but you and I know that isn’t right. We are human and we’re flawed, and that’s okay. By trying to seem perfect, you’re not being authentic, which isn’t attractive. Better to just be yourself.
We wait for someone to come to us
Sometimes you have to put yourself out there. Say hello to that nice looking stranger and see where it takes you, you never know…