As a parent, being in this situation is never fun; watching your kid in a fit of rage almost tends to drive you over the edge as well, but hey, it’s a pretty normal phrase for children so take a deep breath each time it gets to that. At this stage, kids barely understand “coping skills”, they want what they want and got to have it NOW – no negotiations! And it gets a little worse, because kids haven’t mastered the language skill just yet, it becomes difficult to understand their needs sometimes. So when your kid needs more food, a toy or anything, he results to throwing a fit. Managing these moments particularly with older toddlers, becomes rather exhausting, but don’t stress it, there’s hope! 5 ways to tame your toddler’s tantrums;
This might sound a little harsh, but removing yourself from that picture could help your kid calm down in the end. At that point his emotions are on top gear and he isn’t trying to reason, your presence might even make matter worse, so give him a moment to breathe, calm down and get it over with. Sometimes he just needs time and space to let the anger out, so if you kids wants to vent, let them . This prevents you from yelling and makes them regain control.
This works a lot; while the tantrum threatens to take over, get your kid’s attention diverted to something more engaging; try toys, favourite snacks, cartoons… these helps ward off a major meltdown before the impending meltdown could happen. It helps calm them down. Kid’s have a short attention span and distracting them real quick from their source of anxiety could work in your favour at that moment.
Kids under-2-and-a-half have limited communication because their vocabulary is limited, so voicing their needs and wishes becomes quite a strain, because adults can barely understand their needs, which often gets misunderstood. But you’ve got to figure out what they what as parents, so how does that happen? You could try the “showing technique” – when your child wants something , he could easily point it out, saving both parties the headache of trying to figure out forever. As time goes on communication will get better.
If hugs can make you feel better, imagine how it can make your kid feel. Although understandably at that moment, giving a hug might be the last thing you want to do, when your kid’s acting up, but it really can help settle him down,” A firm big hugs makes the kid feel secure as it also makes them know you absolutely care even though you don’t quite agree with their actions. So give your kid a real tight squeeze and you’ll be surprised.
Sometimes kids just get tired; maybe they’re being forced to keep quiet for a long time, meal gets tiring, a toy snatched , you’ve got to offer them a little bribe. When the tantrums begin you could gently throw in a bribe; his favourite toy/ snack/cartoon whatever. Ensure you set the pace so your kid will be left with no choice but to comply. Kids love a treat any time so chipping it in sometimes is a good idea but don’t overdo it though.
What ever you do, don’t scream! Yes it can get really frustrating during your child’s tantrum, keep your cool, if not, things are going to escalate and that’s what you don’t need. Yelling makes things a whole lot worse. Sometimes kids resort to tantrums to get attention, so be a little bit more understanding. Don’t let your kid see you’re upset, take a deep breath, relax and talk in a soothing voice. A calm tone calms you kid’s nerves but a not so calm one makes them scream louder. Don’t lose it.
Kids are kids, sometimes there’re so cute and cuddly, other times they annoy the hell out of you, but in all we can’t help but love them.