What does it mean to be narcissistic? It means showing too much love to oneself. Narcissistic people show excessive interest in themselves, and it doesn’t matter who gets hurt as long as they get what they want. They have total admiration of their physical appearance or achievements. Here are likely causes of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
• Over-pampering as a child
Some parents make mistakes when bringing up a child. They will rather spoil a child than make them cry. Everything is offered on a platter of gold. After some time, the child gets used to such treatment and feels entitled to the world.
Some people don’t take criticism well. In fact, no one likes to be criticized, but criticism is often used to correct us and make us better people. However, in some cases, a person might develop such a thick skin to criticism that they create an armour to defend themselves against it.
• Bad and insensitive parenting
Some parents, in the name of discipline, become disrespectful and inhumane to their kids. Some compare them, others pick favourites and these things can either make or break a child. Or when a parent makes you believe you can have it all, you start to believe it.
When you go through a lot of disappointments in life, you create a defense mechanism to avoid such. You shift attention to loving yourself too much.
• Emotional breakdown and turmoil
After a breakdown it takes the body and mind to heal, and with each process, you tend to love yourself in order to protect yourself from recurring breakdown.
Abuse goes from domestic to verbal and physical. So, in order to survive abuse and not go into depression, you are told to love yourself no matter what.