Perhaps one of the most difficult things to do as a human is knowing how to love your partner the appropriate way. Although it is difficult, it is necessary to learn how to love your partner in order to ensure the continued progress of the relationship. Not having the knowledge would inevitably lead to so many relationship failures, crashed marriages.
It is important as a man, a capable man, that you know how to love your partner. This would determine the success or failure of the relationship. These are ways to appropriately love your partner and ensure a longer-lasting relationship between couples.
1. Be her husband
The word, husband, is from the word husbandry, meaning the care, cultivation and breeding of crops and animals, management and conservation of resources.
It is the same way the husband as the male in a marital relationship is that man who can care, nurture, manage and conserve the woman in his life. It will be difficult to love a woman when you are not yet a husband.
That is why the Bible emphatically addresses the matter of showing love to women by their husbands. It is a husband who can know how to love a woman; his own wife.
2. Dwell with her
To dwell is to remain with something or someone for a time, to live together as a resident of a particular place, to exist together, to lie with.
You are to dwell with her, not minding her natural tendencies. Husbands must remain with their wives in sickness and in health - whether it is convenient or not.
Dwelling with your woman as a way of showing love is not about her but about you.
A loving husband must be willing to dwell with his wife when the going is good and when otherwise. It does not matter whether she is a nag. You are to show love by dwelling with her despite her weakness and strength. Do not dwell with her only when she is strong.
3. Treat her with knowledge
This is important. She is your wife and not one of your siblings. She is your wife and not your girlfriend or concubine. She is not even your maid or personal assistant and should not be treated as one.
Treat her with knowledge, realize who she is to you and dwell with her according to that knowledge. Your wife is a stakeholder in your affairs. The moment you realize this, the better for you.
4. Give her honour
This is wow! Love honours, adores and worships. You are to honour her, both in public and private, when convenient and or not. It is one of the most difficult things to do for a man in a relationship but remember, it is not about her but you.
It does not matter whether she is contentious. You just must show love by honouring her.
5. Treat her with understanding
Your ability to understand a woman determines your love for her. It would be difficult to love someone you do not understand.
Be aware of her feelings and emotions. Understand her weaknesses and strengths. By understanding her, you will know how to render help where necessary.
6. See her as a co-inheritor of God's promises
Two are better than one. No matter how great you might be, when you are married, you will become better.
There are certain honours and respects you cannot enjoy except you have a solid relationship with your wife. Every married man can testify to this. A good marital relationship always enhances the personalities of the people involved. It is a key to higher ground in life and ministry.
You are co-inheritors of the promises of God here on earth and so must treat each other that way. Treat her as a co-traveller and pilgrim here on earth. You are both on the journey of life and need the cooperation of one another to end well.
If you do not do this, your prayer may be hindered, as good relationship promotes speedy answers to prayers. Love her the way you love God
Why? This is because if you do not love your wife that you live with and can see how can you love God that is not visible to the naked eye?
There should not be a gap between your love for God and that of your wife. The way you love God must be replicated in your spouse.