Being cheated on is one of the worst things that can happen to anyone. In relationships, there are insecurities, trust, love, understanding, infidelity and so on. Being cheated on fuels insecurities and trust issues, but the deed has been done and it is time to move on.
You can get over cheating, although it seems impossible. Here are a few ways to get over the pain.
1. Accept it
You have to accept how you feel. Accept that it’s real and it happened. It seems difficult but you have to accept that this is normal. Accept the anger. Accept the betrayal. Accept the fact that you are hurting.
2. Don’t blame yourself
This might sound strange but you only know this if you’ve been there. Sometimes, you feel guilty for their actions. You ask questions like “What did I do wrong?” “Was I not doing enough?” “Was the sex that bad you had to look for it elsewhere?”
Don’t do that to yourself. You will only hurt yourself more. They are wrong for hurting you and they should feel guilty. Blaming yourself won’t change the fact that it happened.
3. Do not seek revenge
Do not try to pay them back in any way, either by sleeping with someone else or by dragging them in the mud. You will only hurt yourself. Revenge is sweet only for a moment and regret follows immediately.
4. Take care of yourself
You have to remove the stress and toxins from your body and meditate. Go to the gym, sweat it out. If you find it hard to concentrate, get busy. Breathe, brother. Breathe sister! The culprits are breathing fine so there is no reason why you should not. You have to look even better so they can look back to old times and wonder why they treated you badly.
Lastly, have a one-on-one talk with your partner. Let them know you are aware of their cheating activities. Go to them with proof but look like you’re the next Beyonce/Idris Elba when you do.