4 Healthy Ways To Handle Breakups

4 Healthy Ways To Handle Breakups

Oyekunle Idowu

Ending a relationship is hard, whether it was your decision or the other person’s decision.

Whether the relationship lasted a while or it was cut short, breakups can leave us feeling heartbroken, lost and even physically ill.

You may be dealing with painful emotions and want to deal with those feelings as quickly as possible. While it’s true that time heals all emotional wounds, you can speed up the process of moving on by taking control of your health and well-being.

Here are some things that may inspire you to move on from a bad breakup.

1. Start dating (yourself) immediately

Who says you have to wait for Mr/Mrs Right? Part of bouncing back from a breakup is relearning how to be single again. While it’s fun to learn interesting quirks about a potential suitor, rediscovering all of the amazing things you set aside during your relationship is a foolproof plan for getting yourself out of an emotional rut.

By redirecting your focus to the positive (“I’ve been meaning to do this for months!”) rather than the negative (“I failed at love again”), you will completely change your perspective and train yourself to look toward the positive.

2. Talk about it with people you trust or strangers you’ll never see again

A good friend of mine ended a relationship that had lasted for almost four years. What has helped her get through it is talking to everyone about it. Her parents, friends, co-workers, bartenders, anyone that was willing to listen. The truth is, when the people who love you know that you’re hurting, they would definitely rally around you.

Reaching out to people resulted in more frequent invites to yoga classes, home-cooked meals, movie nights, and day trips. Spending significant time with more people she had neglected over the years reminded her that she is independent and she had everyone she needed in life. Now it’s just a matter of figuring out her new routine as a single person.

3. Avoid having a rebound

A rebound is often a quick fix that will make you feel sexy or happy, temporarily. When you enter into a relationship too soon after breaking up with someone, you may be masking your negative emotions with the excitement of a new relationship.

Eventually, if that new relationship fails, you may have to deal with the pain of two breakups at once. So, you probably should consider remaining single until you have fully processed your emotions and gotten over the breakup.

4. Use this as a motivation to be the best version of yourself

This is really the best part. Set higher goals for yourself. Shake off your frustrations and be ambitious. Strive to be perfect, this may be not possible, but the pressure can help you correct as many flaws as possible.

You should not do this because you want your ex to get back to you. Instead, do this because you have come to the realisation that you don’t deserve to be dumped by just anyone and you deserve the best because you are the best.

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