10 Ways To Overcome The Pain And Stress Of A Broken Relationship
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10 Ways To Overcome The Pain And Stress Of A Broken Relationship

Abiodun Adeoye

Although everyone wants to have a great relationship, at some point things might go bad or even worse, it leads to a break-up.

Going through the pain of a break up can be a very bitter experience and all the more so if it is your first break up.

Lets face it, no relationship runs smooth without occasional disagreements and fight.

If you are like most guys or girls out there who are experiencing the pain and stress of a recent heartbreak, here are some tips on how to overcome the stress as well as the pain of a broken relationship.

1. Pain Provides Gain

The lucky people who fall in love in their teens and marry their high school sweethearts may consider themselves content but we, the experienced lot, know: It is only when going through the pain that you learn to appreciate the good things fully.

Once you recognize how it feels when someone else does it to you, it makes you much more careful not to do the same things yourself. You also pick on the signs to watch out for, if there is a pattern of behaviour a person exhibits.

Glance back and evaluate what went wrong and how you could notice it sooner. Once you think it over, you will feel happier to let it go. You can find online a relationship or dating coach to assist you in the process.

2. Look After Yourself

Get a health check, sign up for a gym or hire a personal trainer. Join a dance class. Eat healthier. Go to bed and get up early. Go for a walk daily.

These simple steps allow you to clear your mind and feel more alive at the same time.

3. Indulge In What You love

When you are in a relationship with someone, you have to do a lot of sacrifices constantly. Being alone, you may do whatever you desire. It's okay to spend a day in your pyjamas if this is what you fancy. Get this nice collection you always eyed. Why not?

4. Erase The Presence Of The Past

Get rid of all the memorabilia that reminds you of the person who hurt you. Throw away the photos, delete files from social networks and computers. Give away their presents to a charity or simply chuck them in a bin.

5. Laugh Your Heart Out

There was a guy who managed to cure cancer by watching funny movies. If it works even on physical ailments, it's even more effective in raising your spirits.

As a life coach, I often see clients blossom by following this simple trick. Download comedies and giggle your heart out. Read jokes online. You are allowed to smile and laugh, even if you are going through a bad breakup.

6. Help Others

You may think that your life is a total gloom, but there are people who are less fortunate than yourself.

Reach to a charity or simply offer to coach kids at a local school.

7. Call A Friend

Treating a heartache is simpler when there are people around. Even if you do not feel like it, reach out to friends and family, reconnect and spend time together.

8. Get A Makeover

Girls do it every time, so why not follow what works? Book a proper hairstylist and get a new cut.

Lots of shopping centres offer services of a professional stylist for free if you buy clothes there. Shopping assistants at a department store will also enjoy helping you to put together a new wardrobe.

Seriously, any relationship coach knows that by changing your appearance you instantly lift yourself up emotionally. How others view you will also change.

9. Try Online Dating

After a successful makeover, why not give it a safe ride by using a trusted online dating sites or apps. You don't even have to meet anybody in person if you are not ready.

Simply talking to other singles is a great way to get over past bad feelings. There are definitely some nice women in this world who think you are a great catch.

10. Start Somewhere

Wallowing in your own sorrow is a nice way to pass time but it is not helpful when you want to move forward.

Schedule some activities that you could do tomorrow and this week. Maybe do something right now without too much thinking. Just start somewhere and the situation will improve.

Remember, the end of a relationship, doesn't mean the end of your life. Go out, have fun, and who knows, you might just meet the one truly meant for you.

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